Explanation

  • To annoy or irritate someone, often persistently or over time.

Origin

  • Dates back to the late 19th or early 20th century.
  • The expression relates to the idea that annoyance directly affects one's nervous system, causing agitation, discomfort, or a 'jangled' feeling.
  • It suggests the irritation is grating and persistent, directly impacting one's state of calm.

Alternatives

Slang/Informal:

  • Bugging me
  • Grinding my gears
  • Doing my head in (UK/Aus)
  • Ticking me off
  • Getting to me

Vulgar/Emphatic:

  • Pissing me off
  • Getting on my tits (UK, very vulgar)
  • Annoying the shit out of me

Milder:

  • Bothering me
  • Irritating me
  • It's a bit annoying
  • It's frustrating

Situational Appropriateness

  • Informal to semi-formal.
  • Generally acceptable among friends, family, and sometimes colleagues about a shared annoyance.
  • Avoid saying it *directly to* a superior about their actions. Use cautiously when complaining *about* someone.

Misunderstanding Warnings

  • Generally well understood idiomatically. The literal meaning isn't typically confusing.

Examples

  • That constant dripping sound is really starting to get on my nerves.
  • His habit of interrupting people really gets on my nerves.
  • Please stop humming, it's getting on my nerves.

Dialogue

Sarah: Ugh, the car alarm across the street has been going off for ten minutes.

Ben: Seriously? Yeah, that's really getting on my nerves now.

Sarah: Me too. I hope someone turns it off soon.

Social Media Examples

  • Tweet: These constant political ads are seriously getting on my nerves! 😤 #annoyed #election
  • Facebook Post: Does anyone else have that one coworker whose loud typing gets on their nerves all day? 😅
  • Comment: Stop tagging me in random posts, it really gets on my nerves.

Response Patterns

  • Agreement: Tell me about it!, I know, right?, It's annoying me too.
  • Sympathy: Oh no, that sounds frustrating., I can see why that would bother you.
  • Inquiry: Really? What's bothering you?
  • If directed at the listener's actions: Apology (Oh, sorry, I didn't realize.) or Defensiveness (I'm not doing anything!).

Common Follow-up Questions/Actions

  • After hearing it: What's up?, What specifically is annoying you?, Can I do anything?
  • The speaker might elaborate on the source of irritation, sigh, ask the source to stop, or remove themselves from the situation.

Conversation Starter

  • No. Usually a response to an ongoing annoyance rather than an opener.

Intonation

  • Stress usually falls on GETTING, ON, and NERVES.
  • The tone is typically one of irritation or frustration, often increasing in intensity if the annoyance persists. That noise is really GETTING ON my NERVES!

Generation Differences

  • Commonly understood and used across most generations.

Regional Variations

  • Widely used in all major English-speaking regions (US, UK, Canada, Australia, etc.).
  • Wind me up is a common British English equivalent.
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