Explanation

  • A common expression used to show sympathy or mild regret about someone else's misfortune or disappointing news.

Origin

  • Literal meaning: The situation described is unfortunate ('bad'), and perhaps excessively so ('too').
  • A standard, conventional phrase that evolved naturally.

Alternatives

Slang/Informal:

  • That sucks. (Stronger, more informal)
  • Rough. / That's rough.

Milder/More Formal:

  • I'm sorry that happened.
  • That is regrettable.
  • My condolences. (Only for very serious situations like death)

Insincere/Dismissive (Tone is crucial):

  • Oh well. (Can sound uncaring)
  • Tough luck. (Can sound unsympathetic)

Situational Appropriateness

  • Generally appropriate in most situations, from informal to semi-formal. It's polite and common.
  • For very serious news (like major illness or death), I'm so sorry to hear that is usually better as That's too bad can sound insufficient.

Misunderstanding Warnings

  • The main risk is sounding insincere if the tone of voice isn't right. It needs to sound genuinely sympathetic, even if mildly so.

Examples

  • You didn't get the job? Oh, that's too bad.
  • I hear Sarah is sick and can't come to the party. That's too bad.
  • They lost the game in the final minute. That's too bad.

Dialogue

Person A: I won't be able to make it to the movie tonight, I have to work late.

Person B: Oh, that's too bad. We'll miss you.

Person A: Yeah, me too. Have fun though!

Social Media Examples

  • Comment: Friend's post: My car broke down again... -> Comment: Oh no, that's too bad! Hope it's not expensive to fix.
  • Reply: News article: Local library reducing hours due to budget cuts. -> Reply: That's too bad for the community.
  • Tweet: Heard my favorite band isn't touring this year. That's too bad, was hoping to see them live.

Response Patterns

  • Acknowledgment: Yeah, it is. / I know.
  • Further detail: Yeah, I was really hoping for it.
  • Acceptance: Oh well, what can you do? / It happens.

Common Follow-up Questions/Actions

After hearing That's too bad:

  • The person who shared the news might elaborate on their feelings or the situation.

After saying That's too bad:

  • Often followed by a question showing further interest or concern: That's too bad. What happened? / Is there anything I can do?
  • Can also be a conversation closer if the topic is minor.

Conversation Starter

  • No. It's a response to information.

Intonation

  • Gentle, falling intonation.
  • Emphasis often slightly on too or bad. That's TOO bad. / That's too BAD.
  • The tone should convey genuine (though often mild) sympathy. If said flatly, it can sound insincere or dismissive.

Generation Differences

  • Used by all generations.

Regional Variations

  • Universal in English-speaking regions.
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