- Describes someone who is not easily upset, offended, or hurt by criticism, insults, rejection, or difficult situations.
- They possess emotional resilience and don't take negativity personally.
Explanation
Origin
- A metaphor comparing emotional resilience to having physically thick skin that is difficult to penetrate or injure.
- If criticism or insults are thrown at the person, they don't pierce the thick skin to cause emotional pain.
- The term has been used in English since at least the early 19th century.
Synonyms & Related Expressions
Alternatives
Slang/Informal:
- Tough cookie (Implies general resilience to hardship, not just criticism)
- Got balls / Ballsy / Gutsy (Vulgar/informal slang, implies courage and resilience, often in facing confrontation or risk)
- Doesn't give a fuck / Doesn't give a shit (Vulgar, implies complete indifference to criticism or negative opinions)
- Water off a duck's back (Idiom, criticism doesn't affect them)
- Teflon / Teflon-coated (Metaphor, negative comments/criticism don't 'stick')
- Hard / Tough
Vulgar/Emphatic:
- Hard as nails (Implies extreme toughness, perhaps unemotional resilience)
- Stone-cold (Can imply resilience bordering on lack of feeling)
Milder/More Formal:
- Resilient
- Impervious (to criticism)
- Unflappable (Remains calm under pressure)
- Stoical / Stoic (Endures hardship/pain without complaint or showing feelings)
- Insensitive (Negative connotation: lacks awareness or consideration of others' feelings, unfeeling)
- Unperturbed / Unfazed
- Strong / Emotionally strong
Situational Appropriateness
- Generally acceptable in most informal and semi-formal contexts.
- Usually seen as a positive or necessary quality, especially in challenging professions or public life.
- Can occasionally carry a slight negative implication of being insensitive or unempathetic if the person seems *too* unaffected by things that perhaps *should* affect them.
Misunderstanding Warnings
- Usually clearly understood as emotional resilience.
- Important to distinguish from thick meaning stupid or dense. Context makes this clear.
- Ensure it's understood as resisting offense, not necessarily lacking all feeling (though insensitive is a possible negative interpretation).
Examples
- You need to be thick-skinned to survive in the competitive world of politics.
- He received some harsh reviews, but he's pretty thick-skinned and just focused on his next project.
- Don't worry about her teasing; she's just joking and knows you're thick-skinned enough to take it.
Dialogue
Chris: Wow, the comments section on your blog post got pretty nasty. Are you okay?
Dana: Yeah, I'm fine. You develop a thick skin doing this work. Can't let anonymous trolls get to you.
Chris: Good attitude. I'd find that really difficult.
Social Media Examples
- Tweet: Working in customer service requires the patience of a saint and being seriously thick-skinned. #customerservice #retailproblems
- Advice post: Aspiring writers: Be prepared for rejection and criticism. You need to be thick-skinned to make it. #writingcommunity #amwriting
- Comment: He handles the media pressure really well. Gotta be thick-skinned in that job.
Response Patterns
- Agreement: You certainly do., That's true.
- Expressing admiration: That's a valuable trait., Wish I were more like that.
- Commenting on necessity: It comes with the territory., You wouldn't last long otherwise.
- Contrasting: Unlike me, I'm too sensitive!
Common Follow-up Questions/Actions
After describing someone or a need as thick-skinned:
- Discussion might involve specific examples of situations requiring this trait (e.g., dealing with online trolls, handling customer complaints).
- People might admire or reflect on the person's emotional strength.
- Contrasting with thin-skinned (easily offended) is common.
Conversation Starter
- No. Describes a personality trait or a requirement for a situation.
Intonation
- Often said with admiration for the person's resilience, or as a statement of fact about a necessary quality for a situation.
- Stress falls on thick and skinned.
- THICK-SKINNED.
Generation Differences
- Widely understood and used across all generations.
Regional Variations
- Common in all major English-speaking regions.