Explanation

  • An informal term for a friend.
  • Also commonly used in some regions (esp. UK/Aus/NZ) as a casual, friendly form of address to another person, often between men, but also used by/to women, and sometimes to strangers in informal situations.

Origin

  • Comes from Middle English mate, meaning companion or associate, likely derived from Low German words for comrade.
  • Its use as a familiar term of address has a long history, often associated with sailors, soldiers, and working-class communities, emphasizing camaraderie.

Alternatives

Slang/Informal Addresses:

  • UK: Bruv, Pal, Guv, Boss, Son (older man to younger man), Love/Duck/Pet (regional/gendered, can be seen as familiar or patronizing)
  • US/Can: Buddy, Pal, Man, Dude, Bro, Boss, Chief, Hon (can be patronizing)
  • Aus/NZ: Mate (dominant), Bro

Situational Appropriateness

  • Informal.
  • Extremely common and generally acceptable in casual settings (pubs, shops, among friends, sports events) in regions where it's prevalent.
  • Use with caution with strangers; while often fine, some might find it overly familiar depending on context and tone.
  • Can sound out of place or overly casual in formal business settings or when addressing someone with significantly higher status.
  • Tone is critical; avoid using it aggressively.

Misunderstanding Warnings

  • North Americans might find the frequency of its use (especially to strangers) unusual.
  • The primary risk is misjudging the situation and using it when a more formal address is appropriate, or using a tone that comes across as aggressive rather than friendly.

Examples

  • He's my best mate. (Friend)
  • Alright, mate? How's it going? (Greeting/Address)
  • Cheers, mate! (Thanks/Address)
  • Excuse me, mate, have you got the time? (Addressing a stranger informally)
  • Don't worry about it, mate. (Reassurance/Address)

Dialogue

Context

(In a shop)

Customer: Excuse me, mate, do you know where the batteries are?

Shop Assistant: Yeah, mate, aisle 5, halfway down on your left.

Customer: Cheers, mate.

Shop Assistant: No worries, mate.

Social Media Examples

  • Tweet: Big shout out to my mates who helped me move this weekend! Couldn't have done it without you. #legends
  • FB Comment: Good on ya, mate! Well done!
  • Instagram Caption (photo of friends): Out with the mates.

Response Patterns

  • To a greeting: Reciprocal greeting (Alright, mate?, Yeah, good thanks, you?).
  • To thanks: Acknowledgment (No worries, Alright, You're welcome).
  • When addressed: Simply respond to the question or statement.

Common Follow-up Questions/Actions

After a greeting:

  • Engage in small talk (What have you been up to?).
  • Continue with the reason for approaching them.

After being addressed as 'mate':

  • Simply continue the conversation naturally.

Conversation Starter

  • Yes, often used as part of an informal greeting (Alright, mate?) to initiate conversation.

Intonation

  • Generally friendly and casual.
  • As a greeting (Alright, MATE?), often has a rising intonation.
  • As thanks (Cheers, MATE) or reassurance, often has a falling intonation.
  • Stress usually falls on MATE.
  • Tone is crucial; said aggressively (Listen here, MATE...), it becomes confrontational.

Generation Differences

  • Used across generations in UK/Aus/NZ, particularly common among men but widely used by all in informal contexts.

Regional Variations

  • Hallmark of British, Australian, and New Zealand English. Extremely prevalent.
  • Also used in South Africa and Ireland.
  • Much less common as a general term of address in North America, where it often specifically signals a connection to the UK/Aus/NZ or sounds foreign. Buddy, pal, man, dude are more common NA equivalents.
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