Explanation

  • To persuade or pressure someone, often gently or playfully, to do something they were initially reluctant to do.
  • It implies overcoming resistance.

Origin

  • Purely metaphorical, evoking the image of applying physical pressure (like twisting an arm) to force someone to agree or comply.
  • Became common in the mid-20th century.

Alternatives

Slang/Informal:

  • Lean on someone (apply pressure)
  • Put the screws on someone / Turn the screws (apply stronger pressure, more serious)
  • Strong-arm someone (implies more force or less choice, often negative)
  • Talk someone into (neutral persuasion)
  • Wear someone down (persistent persuasion)

Milder/Standard:

  • Persuade
  • Convince
  • Coax
  • Urge
  • Encourage strongly
  • Prevail upon (More formal)

Situational Appropriateness

  • Mostly informal. Common among friends, family, and sometimes colleagues in casual interactions.
  • Using it when agreeing (You twisted my arm) is often humorous and softens the agreement.
  • Avoid using it in very formal negotiations or situations where genuine coercion could be negatively implied.

Misunderstanding Warnings

  • The main risk is a non-native speaker taking the physical violence literally. It's crucial to understand it's figurative and often lighthearted.

Examples

  • I didn't really want dessert, but the host twisted my arm.
  • Go on, come to the party with us! Let me twist your arm.
  • Okay, okay, you twisted my arm! I'll join the committee. (Often said humorously when agreeing)

Dialogue

Friend 1: You should definitely run for class president! You'd be great!

Friend 2: Nah, I don't think so. It seems like a lot of work.

Friend 1: Come on! Everyone thinks you should do it. Please? For me?

Friend 2: (Smiling and shaking head) Alright, alright, you've twisted my arm. I'll think about putting my name in.

Friend 1: Yes! That's awesome!

Social Media Examples

  • Facebook Post: My sister twisted my arm and convinced me to join her yoga class. Wish me luck! #Yoga #PeerPressure #NewBeginnings
  • Tweet: Okay fine, Twitter hive mind, you've twisted my arm. I'll finally watch that show everyone's been raving about. #BingeWatching
  • Instagram Story Poll: Should I buy these shoes? Friend says YES! followed by text She twisted my arm 😉.

Response Patterns

  • When someone yields: Okay, you twisted my arm. The persuader responds: Great! / Excellent! / I knew you would!
  • When accused: I didn't twist your arm! You secretly wanted to come. or Well, maybe just a little persuasion.

Common Follow-up Questions/Actions

  • After someone's arm is 'twisted', they commit to or perform the action they agreed to (Okay, what time should I be there?).
  • The persuader expresses satisfaction and might confirm details.

Conversation Starter

  • No. It describes the act or outcome of persuasion.

Intonation

  • Emphasis typically on TWISTED and ARM.
  • You've TWISTED my ARM! (Said with mock reluctance when agreeing)
  • Do I have to TWIST your ARM? (Said by the persuader, can be playful or slightly impatient)

Generation Differences

  • Widely understood and used across all generations.

Regional Variations

  • Common in all major English-speaking regions.
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