- To doubt or question a decision or action you have already made or are about to make.
Explanation
Origin
- The idea is that your first guess or decision is followed by a second guess – a reconsideration that introduces doubt.
- It implies a lack of confidence or a tendency to overthink after committing to something.
- The phrase likely emerged in the 20th century.
Synonyms & Related Expressions
Alternatives
Slang/Informal:
- Overthink it.
- Get in your own head. (To become confused or anxious by overthinking)
- Wobble (UK Slang To become hesitant or lose confidence)
More Formal:
- Reconsider one's position.
- Experience reservations about a prior conclusion.
Situational Appropriateness
- Common in informal and semi-formal settings. Perfectly fine in most professional contexts when discussing decision-making processes or confidence.
Misunderstanding Warnings
- Generally straightforward. Ensure learners understand it relates to *doubting* a decision, not simply making a second attempt or guess.
Examples
- I chose the blue dress, but now I'm second guessing myself. Maybe the red one was better?
- Trust your instincts; don't second guess yourself all the time.
- He started second guessing his decision to move abroad.
Dialogue
Jordan: I submitted the report, but now I'm second guessing myself about the conclusion section.
Kim: Why? You spent a lot of time on it. I'm sure it's fine.
Jordan: I know, but what if I missed something obvious? Maybe I should have added more data.
Kim: Don't second guess yourself now. It's done. Trust the work you did.
Social Media Examples
- Tweet: Booked a non-refundable flight and now I'm totally second guessing myself. Anyone else do this? 😅 #travelanxiety #decisions
- Instagram Story Poll: Chose paint color A... but now second guessing myself! Should I have gone with B? YES / NO
- Blog Post: How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself and Make Decisions with Confidence.
Response Patterns
- (If someone is second guessing): Stick with your decision. / Why the doubt? / What changed your mind? / It's normal to feel that way.
- (As advice): Yeah, you're right. / Easier said than done. / I'll try not to.
Common Follow-up Questions/Actions
When someone says they are second guessing themselves:
- Others might ask for the reasons behind the doubt: What's making you unsure?
- They might offer reassurance or reinforcement of the original decision.
- The person might articulate their specific doubts or worries.
Conversation Starter
- No. Describes a personal feeling or action related to a decision.
Intonation
- Stress often on second and guess. SECOND GUESS yourself.
- Can be said with a tone of uncertainty, anxiety, or sometimes as advice ('Don't second guess yourself').
Generation Differences
- Widely understood and used across generations.
Regional Variations
- Common in all major English-speaking regions.