Explanation

  • Permanent, fixed, unchangeable, or definitively decided.

Origin

  • Evokes the image of laws or important declarations being carved into stone tablets for permanence, like the Ten Commandments in religious tradition or historical inscriptions.
  • Stone is durable and difficult to alter, symbolizing immutability.
  • Often used in the negative (it's not written in stone) to indicate that something is flexible or subject to change.

Alternatives

Slang/Informal (Often for 'not written in stone'):

  • It's flexible.
  • There's wiggle room.
  • We can play it by ear. (Decide as we go)

Slang/Informal (For 'written in stone'):

  • That's final.
  • End of discussion.
  • Set in concrete.

Situational Appropriateness

  • Appropriate in most contexts, informal to formal.
  • Very common in discussions about plans, rules, schedules, and agreements.

Misunderstanding Warnings

  • Purely metaphorical. Learners need to understand it refers to the unchangeable nature of plans, rules, or decisions, not literal writing on stone.

Examples

  • The schedule is flexible; it's not written in stone.
  • Once the contract is signed, the terms are written in stone.
  • Are these rules written in stone, or is there some leeway?

Dialogue

Person A: Is the meeting definitely at 3 PM on Friday? I might have a conflict.

Person B: It's scheduled for then, but it's not written in stone. If you have a conflict, let me know, and maybe we can adjust it.

Person A: Okay, great. I'll check my calendar and get back to you. Thanks!

Social Media Examples

  • Tweet: Friendly reminder: Your career path isn't written in stone. It's okay to change your mind or pivot! #careeradvice #flexibility
  • Project Update Email: This initial timeline is a draft, folks. Consider it a guideline – it's not written in stone yet.
  • Forum Comment: Are the community guidelines strictly written in stone, or is there moderator discretion?

Response Patterns

If something IS written in stone:

  • Okay, understood. No changes possible then.
  • That's very clear, thank you.
  • Well, we'll have to work within those parameters.

If something is NOT written in stone:

  • Oh good, so there's some flexibility?
  • Great, maybe we can discuss [potential change]?
  • That's helpful to know.

Common Follow-up Questions/Actions

After hearing something is NOT written in stone:

  • Asking about the possibility of specific changes: So, could we potentially move the deadline?
  • Clarifying the degree of flexibility: How much room is there to adjust?

After hearing something IS written in stone:

  • Confirming understanding.
  • Moving on to discuss how to adhere to the fixed terms/rules.

Conversation Starter

  • No. Usually used in response to a question about flexibility or to state the nature of a plan or rule.

Intonation

  • Emphasis usually on stone. When used in the negative, emphasis often falls on not.
  • It's WRITTEN in STONE.
  • It's NOT written in stone.

Generation Differences

  • Widely understood across all generations.

Regional Variations

  • Common globally. Set in stone is an equally common variant.
Word of mouth