Explanation

  • To be completely, utterly, and often uncontrollably in love or infatuated with someone.
  • Can also mean falling physically in a tumbling way, but the in love meaning is far more common idiomatically.

Origin

  • Originally, the phrase was heels over head, dating back to the 14th century, meaning literally tumbling or upside down.
  • Somewhere around the late 18th or 19th century, the order flipped to head over heels.
  • Why it flipped is unclear, but the new order perhaps felt more intuitively like the disorienting, world-turned-upside-down feeling of falling deeply in love.
  • It evokes an image of losing one's balance or rational footing due to strong emotion.

Alternatives

Slang/Informal:

  • Down bad (Modern slang, often implies intense, sometimes embarrassing, infatuation)
  • Whipped (Slang, implies someone is so in love they do anything their partner wants often used humorously or slightly negatively)
  • Simping for someone (Modern internet slang, often negative, implies excessive attentiveness/subservience due to infatuation)
  • Totally sprung (Falling hard and fast for someone)

Milder:

  • Very fond of someone
  • Deeply attached to someone
  • Has strong feelings for someone

More Intense/Poetic:

  • Consumed by love
  • Utterly captivated

Situational Appropriateness

  • Generally informal to neutral.
  • Common in personal conversations about relationships and feelings.
  • Might sound a bit cliché or overly enthusiastic in a very formal context.

Misunderstanding Warnings

  • Learners might initially think of the literal meaning (falling physically).
  • Clarify that it's almost always used metaphorically for intense love or infatuation.

Examples

  • He met her last month and is already head over heels.
  • They fell head over heels for each other on their first date.
  • She's head over heels in love with her new puppy. (Can be used for strong affection, not just romantic love)

Dialogue

Maria: Have you seen Tom lately? He seems so happy.

David: Oh yeah, he met someone new. He's completely head over heels.

Maria: Really? That's fantastic! Who is she?

David: Her name's Emily. Apparently, they have tons in common. He can't stop talking about her.

Social Media Examples

  • Post: Two years with this one! Still head over heels. ❤️ #anniversary #love #couplegoals
  • Tweet: Okay, I just watched that movie and I'm officially head over heels for the main actor. 😍 #celebritycrush #movie
  • Profile Bio Snippet: Dog mom, coffee enthusiast, head over heels for my fiancé.

Response Patterns

  • Aw, that's sweet!
  • Wow, already? (If it happened quickly)
  • They make a great couple.
  • Love is in the air!

Common Follow-up Questions/Actions

After hearing someone is head over heels:

  • Tell me more about them!
  • How did they meet?
  • That's wonderful! Are things serious?

Conversation Starter

  • No.
  • Usually used to describe someone's (often someone else's) emotional state, not to initiate a conversation out of the blue.

Intonation

  • Often spoken with warmth, enthusiasm, or sometimes a touch of amusement.
  • Stress often on head, heels, and love if included.
  • He is HEAD over HEELS for her.

Generation Differences

  • Widely understood across generations. Newer slang alternatives (down bad, simping) are specific to younger generations (Gen Z, Millennials).

Regional Variations

  • Common in all major English-speaking regions.
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