- To understand an indirect suggestion, clue, or signal, especially one indicating something negative (e.g., that one should leave, stop talking, or that one's presence/actions are unwanted).
- Often used in the negative (can't take a hint) to criticize someone's lack of social awareness.
Explanation
Origin
- The logical counterpart to drop a hint.
- Take here means to receive, understand, or grasp the meaning.
Synonyms & Related Expressions
Alternatives
Slang/Informal:
- Get the message
- Catch the drift
- Get with the program (Understand the situation/expectations)
- Figure it out
- Get clued in
- Read the room
Milder/Standard:
- Understand the indirect suggestion
- Perceive the implication
- Be receptive to subtlety
- Recognize the cues
Situational Appropriateness
- Informal.
- Directly telling someone Take a hint! is often rude or aggressive.
- Saying I can take a hint is common and generally acceptable self-awareness.
- Discussing someone else's inability to take a hint is informal gossip or commentary.
Misunderstanding Warnings
- Learners might miss the implied criticism or social awkwardness associated with *not* taking a hint.
- The specific *content* of the hint needs to be inferred from the context.
Examples
- I yawned three times, but he just couldn't take a hint.
- She asked if I needed anything else, which I took as a hint to leave the shop as it was closing time.
- Okay, I can take a hint! You want some quiet time. I'll go.
Dialogue
Guest (at a party, late at night): ...and then in 2017, I switched my investment strategy entirely! Let me tell you all about it...
Host (Cleaning up around the guest): Wow, it's really getting late. I've got such an early morning tomorrow. Big day.
Guest: Oh, for sure. So anyway, the portfolio diversification...
Host's Partner (Quietly to Host): Seriously? He just can't take a hint, can he?
Host (To Guest, more firmly): Well, Bob, it was great having you, but we really need to call it a night now.
Guest: Oh! Right, right. Sorry. Okay, message received. I can take a hint! I'll get my coat.
Social Media Examples
- Tweet: Sent three '👍' emojis in a row hoping they'd end the convo, but nope. Some people just can't take a hint. #TextingProblems
- Reddit Comment: If they keep giving one-word answers and take hours to reply, maybe take the hint? They're probably not interested.
- Facebook Post: Had to basically spell out that the party was over. Why is it so hard for some folks to take a hint? 😩
Response Patterns
- If someone says Take a hint! (which is quite direct/rude), the expected response is compliance.
- If someone says I can take a hint, they usually follow up by doing what was implied (leaving, changing subject, etc.).
- If discussing someone else: Yeah, he never takes the hint. Response: I know, it's so awkward.
Common Follow-up Questions/Actions
- If someone fails to take a hint, the 'hinter' might become more direct or give up.
- If someone correctly takes the hint, they perform the implied action, often ending that part of the interaction.
Conversation Starter
- No. It's a response, an observation, or a (usually critical) description of someone's (lack of) understanding.
Intonation
- Can't TAKE a HINT often said with exasperation or annoyance.
- I can TAKE a HINT often said with resignation, understanding, or sometimes mild offense.
- Emphasis on TAKE and HINT.
Generation Differences
- Common and understood across all generations.
Regional Variations
- Common in all major English-speaking regions.