- To remain neutral or undecided in a dispute, argument, or choice; to avoid taking a side.
Explanation
Origin
- The image is of someone literally sitting on top of a fence that divides two properties or areas.
- From this position, they are in neither one area nor the other, representing a state of neutrality or indecision.
- The phrase has been used figuratively since the 19th century.
Synonyms & Related Expressions
Alternatives
Slang/Informal:
- Be wishy-washy
- Can't make up one's mind
- Play both sides (Can imply deception)
Milder/Formal:
- Remain uncommitted
- Await further information before deciding
- Maintain neutrality
- Reserve judgment
Situational Appropriateness
- Appropriate for informal and semi-formal contexts.
- In very formal situations, remain neutral or be undecided might be preferred.
Misunderstanding Warnings
- Purely figurative. Ensure understanding that it means being undecided, not physically sitting on a fence.
Examples
- You can't sit on the fence forever; you need to decide whose side you're on.
- The manager preferred to sit on the fence rather than choose between the two proposals.
- Stop sitting on the fence and tell me what you really think!
Dialogue
Sarah: So, are you voting for Candidate A or Candidate B?
Tom: Honestly, I'm still sitting on the fence. Both have good points and bad points.
Sarah: Come on, Tom! The election is next week. You need to make up your mind.
Tom: I know, I know. I just find it hard to commit to either one.
Social Media Examples
- Poll: Pineapple on pizza: Yes or No? (No sitting on the fence allowed!) #PizzaDebate
- Post: Feeling torn about the new company policy. Trying not to sit on the fence, but I see both sides. #WorkLife #Decisions
- Comment: He always sits on the fence during arguments, it's so frustrating!
Response Patterns
- I'm still thinking about it.
- It's a complex issue, it's hard to choose.
- Why do I have to take a side?
- Okay, okay, I think... (followed by a decision)
Common Follow-up Questions/Actions
After accusing someone of sitting on the fence:
- One might press further: What's holding you back? or What are the pros and cons in your view?
After someone admits to sitting on the fence:
- One might ask When do you think you'll decide? or try to persuade them towards one side.
Conversation Starter
- No. Describes a state of indecision within a discussion.
Intonation
- Emphasis usually on sit and fence. Stop SITTING on the FENCE.
- Often said with a tone of impatience or criticism, urging the person to make a choice.
Generation Differences
- Widely understood across generations.
Regional Variations
- Common in all major English-speaking regions.