Explanation

  • A warning (sometimes genuine, sometimes humorous) that the speaker has very strong, lengthy, and often negative opinions on the topic just mentioned.
  • Implies that beginning the discussion could lead to a long rant or passionate monologue.

Origin

  • Literal meaning: Do not initiate me talking about this subject.
  • Implies a pent-up store of thoughts or feelings ready to be released if prompted.

Alternatives

Slang/Informal:

  • That topic is my kryptonite. (Figurative weakness/trigger)
  • I will go OFF if we talk about that. (Go off = rant angrily)
  • That's my soapbox issue. (Something they preach about)

Vulgar/Emphatic:

  • Don't fucking get me started on...

Milder:

  • I have rather strong views on that subject.
  • That's a topic I feel quite passionately about.

Situational Appropriateness

  • Informal to semi-formal. Signals strong emotion, usually negative. Use depends on context and relationship with the listener. Can be humorous.

Misunderstanding Warnings

  • Learners might take it as a strict prohibition. While it *can* be, it's often used hyperbolically to express strong feelings, and the speaker might actually *want* to talk about it. Tone is crucial.

Examples

  • Person A: What do you think of the new traffic scheme? Person B: Oh, don't get me started on that mess!
  • Don't even get me started on customer service hotlines.
  • Reality TV shows? Don't get me started.

Dialogue

Mia: I was thinking of trying that new vegan restaurant downtown.

Leo: Oh god, don't get me started on that place. We went last week, and the service was atrocious, the portions were tiny, and honestly, my salad tasted like lawn clippings... [continues]

Mia: Wow, okay! Good to know.

Social Media Examples

  • Tweet: Trying to cancel a subscription online. Don't get me started. It's like escaping Fort Knox. #CustomerExperience
  • Facebook comment: Someone mentioned putting ketchup on steak... DON'T. GET. ME. STARTED. 🤢
  • Forum title: Don't get me started on the bugs in the latest update!

Response Patterns

  • Oh? (Often a playful invitation to start anyway)
  • Okay, topic dropped! (Heeding the warning)
  • Why, what's the issue? (Curiosity)
  • Laughter (if the tone suggests exaggeration or humor)
  • I feel the same way! (Shared passion/frustration)

Common Follow-up Questions/Actions

After hearing Don't get me started:

  • The listener might test the waters (Just tell me the main thing that bothers you) or change the subject (Okay, noted! So, about...).

Often, the speaker:

  • Proceeds to get started anyway, launching into their opinion despite the initial phrase.

Conversation Starter

  • No. A reaction to a specific topic being introduced.

Intonation

  • Often emphatic, with stress on Don't and started. DON'T get me STARTED on...
  • Tone can range from genuinely annoyed to playfully warning.

Generation Differences

  • Common across most adult generations.

Regional Variations

  • Widely used in major English-speaking regions.
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